I have tried
M = {{(a11 + I a12)^2, (b11 + I b12)^2, (c11 + I c12)^2}, {(b11 +
I b12)^2, (d11 + I d12)^2, (e11 + I e12)^2}, {(c11 +
I c12)^2, (e11 + I e12)^2, (f11 + I f12)^2}};
A = {{-1, 9, 0}, {8, 5, 9}, {0, 2, 4}}
G = Transpose[A].M.A
Solve[G == Conjugate[M], Flatten[M]]
The last line creating problem that Solve::ivar: (a11+I a12)^2 is not a valid variable. Can we simplify such matrix equality and simply get the simplified M matrix without doing it by hand